Recovering from Divorce Therapy for Midlife Women
In person therapy in Austin and the Rio Grande Valley.
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You didn’t plan for this. But here you are.
Whether the divorce was years in the making or came crashing out of the blue, the impact is the same: it feels like your entire world cracked open.
Your kids may be grown—or almost there—but that doesn’t mean the loss hits any softer. If anything, it’s heavier. There’s no one else at home to distract you from the silence. No bedtime routines or packed schedules to fill the ache. Just long nights, quiet mornings, and the constant mental load of making sure everyone is “okay.”
You wonder if your kids are secretly struggling. You stress about holidays, parents’ weekends, family milestones, and how to navigate them without putting your adult kids in the middle. The responsibility of holding it all together seems to fall on you.
Meanwhile, you’re left grieving a future that no longer exists.
We were supposed to grow old together.
How did this happen?
Who even am I without him—and without them at home?
People keep telling you to “move on,” but how do you move on when your marriage, your family, and even your identity feel shattered?
Therapy offers a place where you don’t have to be strong all the time. Where your grief, your anger, and your heartbreak are welcome—and where step by step, you can begin to rediscover the parts of yourself you thought were gone
The heartbreak isn’t just losing him—it’s losing yourself somewhere along the way.
You lost an entire version of yourself.
Not just the wife, the partner, the “other half” of a couple,
but also the woman you used to be before it all began.
The one who had dreams of her own.
The one who laughed easily.
The one who believed life would unfold a certain way.
Somewhere along the way, she got left behind.
Buried under years of caregiving, compromise, and survival.
Now you look back and feel the ache of her absence—like a ghost of the girl you once were. You wonder:
Where did she go?
Can I ever find her again?
Or have I lost her for good?
This grief is deeper than losing a marriage.
It’s the quiet devastation of losing yourself.
When the Loneliness Hits the Hardest
Your days are full—you hold it together at work, you stay productive, you keep moving. On the outside, no one would guess how heavy it feels inside.
But the drive home? That’s when it hits.
No one is waiting for you.
No text to say “I’m on my way.”
No voice greeting you at the door.
Whether you’re in the family home that suddenly feels hollow or in a new place that doesn’t feel like yours, the silence is deafening. Some boxes still sit unpacked, because unpacking feels like admitting this is real. And deep down, you just want to wake up and find out this was all a bad dream.
You replay the life you thought you’d have:
the goals you planned together,
the dreams of growing old side by side,
the family traditions that now feel fractured.
And instead of comfort, the thoughts that loop are:
“I’m a failure.”
“How did it all go so wrong?”
To make it worse, the social invitations have dried up. The couples’ dinners, the weekend gatherings—the group texts where you used to belong—somehow don’t include you anymore. It’s not just the marriage you lost. It’s the friendships, the belonging, the sense of being part of something.
And through it all, you keep carrying the weight alone.
What If Life Could Feel Lighter Again?
Right now, it feels impossible. But imagine, just for a moment, that things could change.
Imagine walking into your home at the end of the day and not feeling dread in the silence.
Instead of emptiness, there’s a soft sense of peace.
Imagine waking up and not having that crushing weight in your chest, the thought loop quiet for once, so you can sip your coffee slowly and feel steady inside your own skin.
Picture yourself laughing again, not the forced smile you put on at work or with friends, but a real, easy laugh that bubbles up without guilt.
Think of what it would feel like to navigate holidays or family weekends with more calm and less tension.
And most of all? Imagine reconnecting with the woman you thought you’d lost.
The one who had dreams and goals before life got so complicated.
The one who felt confident, curious, and alive.
She’s not gone. She’s still here, waiting for you.
How Therapy Can Help You Rebuild
You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Therapy offers a steady place to bring the anger, the grief, and the endless “what ifs” that keep looping in your mind. It’s not about rushing you to “get over it.” It’s about creating space where your pain has room to breathe—and where your healing can begin.
Together, we’ll:
Notice the patterns that show up in your thoughts and relationships, so you can finally see where they come from—and start loosening their grip.
Untangle the guilt that whispers you’ve failed, and replace it with compassion and steadiness.
Explore what it means to protect your peace—whether that’s navigating co-parenting without losing yourself, or saying no to family pressures that wear you down.
Reconnect with the woman underneath the heartbreak, the one who’s still here, waiting for you to remember her.
We go slow. You set the pace. And you never have to do it alone.
Hi, I’m Keely Rodriguez
I know that midlife divorce isn’t just about ending a marriage, it’s about rebuilding an entire sense of self. You’ve spent years being the steady one for everyone else, and now you deserve a space where you get to be held.
In our work together, you set the pace. You never have to talk about anything before you’re ready. My role is to walk with you as you sort through the grief, anger, and questions—and to help you begin noticing the patterns that have been shaping your story.
Clients often tell me it feels like they can finally exhale in our sessions. Like they don’t have to perform, or hold it all together, or minimize how much it hurts. Instead, they get to be seen, supported, and reminded that healing is possible.
This process works because it’s not about forcing change, it’s about gently uncovering the parts of you that have been buried under years of giving and surviving.
Little by little, you begin to feel lighter, steadier, and more connected to yourself again.
In therapy, we gently sift through the grief, the patterns, and the unspoken expectations.
We’ll name what’s broken, what you miss, and what you fear.
Using EMDR, Brainspotting, and nervous system–focused support, we work with what’s stuck—not to relive the pain, but to begin gently releasing it.
You get to arrive as you are—angry, tender, lost—but slowly, you’ll feel seen, safe, and more connected to your inner compass.
A glimpse of what’s possible on the other side
One morning, you wake—and you breathe in quietly, without dread.
You sip your coffee slowly and feel like you again—not “ex-wife,” not everyone’s fixer—but yourself.
You notice curiosity returning—about who you are, what lights you, what you want next.
What Life Can Look Like After Divorce Recovery
Healing doesn’t mean erasing the past. It means finally being able to breathe again, without the constant ache or weight in your chest.
Imagine…
Walking into your home at the end of the day and feeling at peace instead of hollow.
Waking up without dread, and sipping your morning coffee slowly, with a quiet steadiness inside.
Navigating holidays, parents’ weekends, or family gatherings without being swallowed by guilt or tension.
Saying no without apology, and protecting your peace without feeling selfish.
Laughing again, really laughing, because joy has started to seep back in.
Looking in the mirror and seeing not just the woman who survived, but the one who is beginning to thrive.
Most of all, imagine reconnecting with the parts of yourself you thought you’d lost, the dreams, the goals, the spark that was always yours.
I want you to know:
You don’t have to navigate this alone.
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